Lake Ridge Virginia Real Estate Help For Sellers and Buyers: What do you do when your significant other won't look at homes with you?

What do you do when your significant other won't look at homes with you?

 What do you do when your significant other won't look at homes with you?
 
It's time to stop looking at homes! Why, because it is a huge waste of your time....stop househunting
 
Looking for a home without your significant other is the definition of CRAZY!
 
Can some couples do it. Sure they can. How?
  1. When your significant other trusts you enough to narrow the search.
  2. When they clear their schedule to go see the top contenders.
  3. When you have a list of their wants and needs and things they are willing to compromise on for the right house.
  4. When your signifigant other is interested and invested in the process.
Over the past twenty years I have worked with countless hopefull buyers and sellers.
One thing I know for sure, buying or selling a home is a big deal. It takes a good amount of time to accomplish your goal. Heck, relocating buyers do this all the time. Many times, only one family member can make the trip. The key to their success is trust!
 
However, when you have a significant other that shoots you down, devalues your opinion and disregards all the time and energy you are investing to finding the perfect home.
 
My advise...STOP LOOKING!
 
Give yourself a break. Free yourself from the stress.
 
When your significant other is ready to look, make a deal with them.We only look at homes together.
 
Just say " I'm not going to waste my time, looking at homes, narrowing the search. Only to have you shoot me down, devalue my time, my opinion and watch the home I love go to someone else who submitted an offer before you're ready!"
 
Try not to get discouraged. Just know that this happens and when you are ready, you will find that I have the patience, the knowledge and the experience to help you find the right home here in Prince William County Virginia.
 
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Peggy James REALTOR® Woodbridge Virginia

" You would want to hire me as your REALTOR®, if you're looking for a high energy, positive, take charge,knowledgeable person that is passionate about helping you get what you want! "

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7 commentsPeggy James • November 16 2011 08:11AM

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You are correct!

Only one buyer couple I had has been able to do that so far. She claims that I showed her over 50 homes in Sierra Vista, AZ; which I don't remember. Did show her a very many. She narrowed it down to 3 and the husband choose the best one and they bought it and still live there.

Posted by Brian Schulte, SFR, Sierra Vista, AZ (Allison James Estates & Homes) over 1 year ago

It's duplicating everything and in this market, who has time, money or patience!??

Posted by Cindy Edwards CRS GRI PMN Northeast Tennessee 423-677-6677 (RE/MAX Checkmate) over 1 year ago

Brian, thank you for your comment today. I love when that happens, however so few buyers are able to master that. The interesting thing is home buyers today are so much luckier than from a decade ago. Now with today's technology they can get a great feel for a home, neighborhood and community just by turning to the Internet, looking up  the subdivision, even the street address. So much information is out their. However, if one partner has a different agenda. It can be frustrating.

Posted by Peggy James (Exit Choice Realty) over 1 year ago

If the decision makers (whatever the combination husband and wife, parents and child, etc...) can't be there to see the home, there had better be a VERY good reason or I will wait till they are all available before showing.

Posted by Ken Brandon Camp Lejeune, Jacksonville, NC (Keller Williams (Jacksonville, NC)) over 1 year ago

Cindy- I hear you. However, this is more about the buyer not me the real estate agent. I chose to take the risk to go into real estate and work without benefit of pay until I successfully get the buyer or seller to settlement.

Personally,I am willing to give home-buyers the benefit of the doubt. My rule is simple. I want to meet with both decision makers in person or on a phone consult, you need to be pre-approved for a home loan. Then we try it. However, if we go out three times, and the signifigant other is not invested or does not act. It's time to STOP until they are both on board with the process.

Posted by Peggy James (Exit Choice Realty) over 1 year ago

Absolutely!  It is a waste of time if the couple is not on the same page.

Posted by Kathy Sheehan (Prospect Mortgage) over 1 year ago

Hey Ken- I can tell you've been to that movie before and don't like the ending! Me neither.

Kathy- agreed, when a couple is not on the same page especially about the thought of buying, then there is no way they can agree on what to buy. A real estate agent has the power to help you find and negotiate a wonderful offer on your behalf for not only  a great house that fits your lifestyle but a house you can make and call home.

Posted by Peggy James (Exit Choice Realty) over 1 year ago

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